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People Matter Television Campaign

Everyone has a voice and deserves to be heard. Everyone has a story to tell.

We travelled New Zealand to bring you brief moments of insight into people’s lives, which we hope might encourage you take a moment to pause and think.

The videos are unscripted, and simply arose from asking someone: “Would you like to share your story?”

Introduction

“Your children are always your children.”

“The toughest thing about being a solo parent is playing the good cop and bad cop.”

“Education is always important.”

Deanna talks about her kids

“My kids aren’t selfish at all. They have always given each other everything they have got. At Christmas, they will give gifts to other kids. They are always thinking of other people before themselves.”

Maata talks about money

“People need to have income. It’s no good being in poverty or poor, and the kids go out and steal stuff because they can’t get a car. They have got to be taught how to work, and to get a good job you have to get a good education. Education is important. I think it’s number one.”

Kathy talks about getting it right

“You do reflect, look back and say ‘did I get it right?’ You want to make sure that you have brought up your children as well as you can, that you have prepared them for the future as best as you can. I look back and I think to myself, ‘are they happy?’ Your children are always your children.”

Mike talks about making memories

“As a parent I wanted to give my children experiences. Me and Ocean quite often spend a couple of hours fishing on the wharf. Even if we catch no fish, that will be a memory I hold in high regard. I reckon that giving Ocean some of these memories and experiences will give him that same experience to take through to his adult life.”

Kathy talks about budgeting

“My son wanted to go on school camp. It was going to cost $90, and I was a solo parent. You have to be honest with your children. I sat down with the budget and went through it with him - all we had left was $17. It was a good way of teaching him to understand that when you want something, you can’t always have it or afford it. You have to tell our children why you can’t afford it, and give them as much information as you can, then they will accept it better.”

Saima talks about tolerance

“We are all humans. We all think the same, we all eat the same. Every parent wants their kids should be better. I have different beliefs, some other people have different beliefs, but the main motive is the same. What things I like, my neighbours would like the same thing.”

Dylan talks about his music

“I was a very angry young man, and I found bashing a guitar was a lot better than bashing a person. I write about events that happened in my life, you could call it an audio diary. It’s kept me on the straight and narrow and out of trouble, which I am really thankful for.”

Boyd talks about aroha

“Aroha plays a massive role in our whanau. We constantly remind our kids if we do growl them, we are growling the behaviour, and no matter what we growl, we always love you. We especially have to remind our young teenager. Every night I say ‘I love you, I missed you, have a lovely sleep’.”

Elijah talks about his childhood

“When I was growing up, it was quite rough. I didn’t really have a father figure around, and that reflected on me being around my children most of the time. Because I know what it feels like. It taught me a lot of key things to be a parent.”

Koia talks about spending time with his children

“Every Saturday I’m here on the sports field. I try to support my children and always have done. I love them very dearly, so as a parent, having that support for them is something I had when I was growing up. My dad spent time with me, and that was the main thing. That’s a value of mine, to spend time with my children. No matter how many times they fall, I’m there to pick them up.”

Francis talks about seeing how other people live

“When I was younger, my family and I went travelling for six months through Asia. It was a great experience to see how other people live - it made you realise what you have and what other people don’t have. When I don’t get things, or if I want something, I have to think back and realise what other people have.”

John talks about listening to your children

“I remember one day taking my kid to kindergarten and he said ‘What was the world like before colour?’ I thought, ‘what’s he thinking about?’ He had seen a movie on TV that was black and white, and thought that colour was a new invention that had come into the world. It made me think, sometimes we don’t listen to exactly what our kids are saying, and often they are saying incredible things.”

Mike talks about watching his son play rugby

“We value watching their sport, and we always wondered how much they actually acknowledge when you are there. And one day I was in the house, and William asked me if I was coming to watch him play rugby tomorrow. I saw him go round the corner and give himself a fist pump – he was rapt I was going to be there. They do care, and they do notice.”

Martin talks about pushing the boundaries

“I took my daughter for a mountain bike ride the other day. It was a slightly hard track, quite rocky. She’s eight. She flew through it. At the end of that I was buzzing, way more than if I had done it myself. I could see her growing in confidence and getting feedback from me. It was a great day.”

Tarangit talks about coming to appreciate his parents

“In India, I played cricket, my mum bring food and give it to me, I say I don’t want food. Over here, I prepare my food myself. That reminds me how lucky I was in India - my parents did everything.”

Twins Preyst and Raven talk about getting into trouble

“We put our parents and grandparents through hell, the stress. The worst one was being in custody, being locked away. We are not thinking - we don’t think about others until we get into trouble.”

Mary talks about her family

“My own family was completely dysfunctional. I feel like I’m a survivor, but I was absolutely determined that my own family, that I created, would not be like my family of origin. Almost that’s my life’s work – to not inflict those wounds that were inflicted on me onto my children.”

Komene talks about manaakitanga

“I was raised in Te Reo Maori, Te Ao Maori, which is the Maori world, by my grandparents. Being a father to me is teaching my kids about respect, love and manaakitanga. Manaakitanga is a word in Maori that means to love, care for and look after one another. If I can impart that on my kid or kids, then I can only think of good things that will come from it.”

Lyn talks about being grateful

“We are really lucky we are in a safe country, where our kids will grow up without big trouble. Watching the news every day, seeing other families around the world struggle with war and horrible circumstances, I feel so lucky we have got a lovely safe place to bring our kids up. I’m thankful for that every day.”

Natasha talks about kindness

“I was talking to my friend who works at the high school. She works with the children with disabilities. She said to me of all the children at the school, my daughter is the one that will go and get chocolate and take it back to the kids that can’t get to the canteen, or she’s the one that will say hi to them or ask them if they are okay. I love to hear that she has got that special kind heart.”